Week 1: Even Miracles Take a Little Time ~Fairy Godmother~

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My name is Jessica and I've been married to my husband for 10 years now. Wow, I can't believe how time has flown!  I enjoy camping, gardening, playing the piano, and spending time with my family.  This is my first time posting on a blog site so bear with me.  I am excited to share my journey as I learn about marriage and family.  My husband and I struggled with infertilitly for 8 years and it nearly broke our hearts.  I used to be a foster mom and had a variety of children in my home and worked with many families.  We were hoping to foster to adopt, but God had different plans for us.  By way of inspiration, a family friend introduced a well-known and affordable fertility doctor.  Shout out to Dr. Amols at New Direction Fertility!  Now we are blessed with twin girls, delievered in Spring 2019.  I enjoy helping children and strengthening families.  It brings me joy watching others learn, grow, and feel loved.  

 I enjoy learning from others so feel free to leave comments below!

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